Relationships are actually never perfect, you can never have a perfect relationship if you are exerting too much pressure in it and even though we know that once we enter a relationship our lives will never be the same again because of the different feelings that we will be experiencing throughout. These feelings include happiness, sadness, jealousy, and of course being unreasonable at times. Men and women always have this trait of unknown reason. And when we encounter irrational people we tend to lose our cool and act the way these people do which is actually wrong. So in order to maintain balance when someone acts this way, below are the tips to follow when your partner is behaving irrationally:
Fight the urge to fight back. It is not always useless to fight back to irrational people because they actually don’t have the sense of logic when they are in that state, they are all very good at arguing that on that way, so there’s actually no point to argue with them because it will just be a senseless mad talk and will not yield good results if that’s what you wanted to have.
Keep your cool. When your partner is being irrational and before it starts to get into your nerves, analyze the situation first that your partner is not on his or her proper state of mind and there’s no use of arguing. The proper thing to do is to just listen to everything she talks about even though he or she is vigorously mad speaking to you, and when he or she is done with the talking, ask her calmly what was the reason why he or she behaves that way so that you will be able to fix problems if there is any. If he or she did not take it positively, just continue to explain that you are very much willing to help up to no extent at all.
Charge it according to experience. You can actually learn a lesson from irrationality and you should never take it for granted. By having this emotion by your partner you will begin to know on what the things that will trigger that attitude are and what effective things that you do to actually pacify her down. You actually don’t need to show the same angriness that your partner is showing when being irrational because it just leads to nowhere and the best thing to do is to always learn from that every experience so that you’ll be prepared when it happens again.
Identify your partner’s support system. Determine whom the people your partner is going to when this situation arises because they may not be a good influence and will just actually make the situation worse. The support group’s duty is to define goals and to determine possible options on how to solve the problem and to not just give another injury to the problem. Remember that they are just there to give advices and to influence your partner to do something that he or she will be regretting in the future.
Never lose your sense of understanding. Sometimes, people get irrational because they want to seek attention from the person they love and it is just their defense mechanism in order for them to look not the underdog in the situation. Try to think back what actually did you do, maybe you did something bad that is why your partner reacted that way, maybe it is you and not your partner after all, right? Just remember that there is always a rainbow after the rain, and everything passes and there is always time wherein your partner gets enlightened and both of you will live a happy and blissful life together.
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