Arguments will never do well in a relationship; in fact it will be no good when it is happening most of the time like a habit that can’t be stopped. There are also times when you just can’t take the harsh words that your partner has caused you when you are in a middle of an argument, right? It’s as if you wanted to do the same but you are just afraid that it will let the argument go to its worst part, so what you will do is to just accept those hurtful words your partner is throwing at you without even trying to fight back a bit to hurt the ego as well.
If you are experiencing this too often, I guess it’s time for you not to be an underdog anymore and be able to voice out what you really feel about the situation. Here are some ways on how to handle criticism and attacks from your partner:
Understand. Before you respond to anything, see to it that you know what the reason behind the criticism is and know what the misunderstanding is all about so that you know the right words to use when it is your time to speak back to your partner.
Don’t act too defensive. Being defensive means that you are actually admitting the accusation of your partner to you and it’s like you have given him the permission to insult you even more. You can actually take this as an opportunity to turn the tables down and let your partner get the shock of a lifetime by answering him in a way that he least expected to happen. Since, your partner may be very furious, act the opposite way by responding in a very polite manner, and let him have to think about it instead of attacking you even more.
Curve your lips to a beautiful smile. A simple smile can actually brighten the mood to the person you have given that into. And it will also give him the idea that what he has said doesn’t affect you after all and you are confident with yourself that you are on the right side.
Do self-assessment. Take a time to ask yourself and ponder unto the things that you were criticized for. Maybe your partner only said it because of the reason, you may already changed your attitude and it is just the way of your partner to let know that he or she does not approve of it. Your partner doesn’t just know how to express it well.
Tell your friends and family members about the situation. It is only proper that you tell your family about or close friends so that you will be getting the right amount of support that you will be needing because at times like this, only the people close to your heart will actually be your strength to be able to survive this kind of trial in a relationship.
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