Effective Strategies in Conflict Resolution

It is quite common for spouses to have a little conflict at times, especially in the decision-making process. It is actually the nature of man to argue, and we just can’t do anything about it but to argue too, right? What a life’s irony, really. But sometimes small arguments often lead to heated arguments then to a fight of a lifetime, wherein if not given proper attention to will lead to a not so good ending. And who would want that?

For you to be able to not reach the worst part of any arguments that you and your spouse will be encountering below are some strategies to be read on to:

·         Focus on the current issue. It is not healthy to open up about new other topics that you have been fighting that will only make the situation worse because all the more that you won’t be able to resolve the issue, when this happens.

·         Be on the same side. Do it in a way that both of you will be the ones responsible to solve the issue and not, by just “him alone, or, “her alone”. Work together as a couple, since the both of you are involved into this, so you really don’t have any choice about it.

·         Know the main issue. Small fights often grown into big ones when the root of the issue is not very well-explained to, thereby, as the argument arises the problem will only get bigger and bigger if this is not identified.

·         Be open with your thoughts. Don’t pretend as if you know how your spouse behaves, decides, and thinks. Directly ask questions that are bugging your mind, so you will get answers that will let you calm yourself down. Remember, that even though you are couples, it doesn’t necessarily mean that you know what’s going on in each other’s head at all times.

·         Be sure that you will settle your arguments before bedtime. Make sure that your arguments will be settled right before you sleep. Just act like two responsible adults, and never let your anger bring it down until morning, because this will be not be beneficial in your relationship. Just think of the happiness that you will get, when you wake up in the morning and the anger you had the other night is already replaced by love made in heaven.

·         Never attack your spouse below the belt. When arguments reaches to the point wherein you are not able to manage your anger anymore, never use words that would hurt your partner the most like attacking his personality because this is the common mistakes of people who are arguing and they really say hurtful words about the weak side of his partner which is not acceptable.

·         Never underestimate the power of love. On the record, love is the reason why both of you were united, right? So, make it a reminder to yourselves that you made vows on that very special day because of your deep love with each other and it will also be the same reason why you will forgive, forget, and admit your mistakes, and stay away to arguments.