You committed infidelity to your partner, and you’ve realized that it is still your partner is the reason why you are living in this world. It is actually not easy to bring back the trust and love that was lost, so you need to exert a large amount of extra effort to be able to bring back the days that you use to be when you and your partner is helplessly madly in love with each other.
You have to prove that you won’t do the same mistake again and to be able to do this, really require a lot of sacrifice to the spouse at fault. Some may reach for approximately 4 months to even a year for the partner to be able to accept the relationship again but if you’re going to think this over. So to be able to make things easier and extra sweet you need to follow this steps on how to make up for the lost times wherein you hurt your partner’s feelings:
End the communication. This is the first step of it all, by the means of ending any communication to the person that you whom have relations with, it means that you don’t have any more plans of getting back when you get tempted again. And this step also reassures your partner that you are really sincere with your intention of winning back your partner’s love, trust, and acceptance.
Give enough space and time. Give yourself time to be away for awhile, for you to be able to find yourself again and reflect on the things that you did that you know was wrong and will you make amends for that fault you commit. With this you will be able to think clearly and face your space with sincerity that you are serious with your intentions of getting back to her despite of what happened.
Be honest as you can be. For your partner to trust you again, you just have to answer all questions that she asks you about the issue. Just be honest as possible no matter how sensitive the topic is because that is why your spouse asks questions, because of the willingness to accept you again but at the same time she also has doubts that you might do it again. Remember, honesty is still the best policy in whenever conditions it may apply.
Building blocks of trust. Once you and your partner talked calmly already and have shared your thoughts about the issue, then it’s time for you to start gaining back the trust of your spouse. Let her feel that he or she is the only one that matters to you, and that includes communicating with her every now and then, telling where you are that time, who’s with you. Surprises also helps in a big way, because this is actually the do or die phase wherein, what matters is the person you want to be with. And also, try asking her of what she wants you to do just to prove that you have really changed for the good.
The power of relationship counseling. Yes, this is a big help when you wanted to rekindle the love that was lost with your partner. Counseling gives you the chance to rediscover yourselves again, and let you see that you are really bound to be in each other’s arms and not in the arms of someone else. For this to be successful, it should be attended both by the concerned parties, and not just by one person.
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